Asking questions is often more powerful than listening to advice or repeating certain believes. Because it’s a way of directing your mind, it’s a way of gaining insight. That’s why I ask you to take 5 minutes to answer these five questions.

  1. Do you feel that you can face the challenges life gives you?
  2. Do you feel you can cope them?
  3. Do you feel you deserve to be happy and fulfilled?
  4. Do you seek out happiness and fulfillment?
  5. Do you feel confident that you can cope emotionally and mentally with problems, conflicts and obstacles?

When you answer these questions, don’t overthink it. Just answer intuitively. The first answer that comes to your mind, your immediate feeling, is a good enough gauge.

If you have a low self-esteem, then you probably have answered several of these questions negatively.

That’s not a bad thing. And it’s not a good thing either. It is just what it is. It tells you where you stand right now.

The next step is to ask yourself: where do you want to be?

And you probably want to get to a place where you can confidently answer all of these questions positively.

And that’s what building self-esteem is all about.


What are the benefits of developing your self-esteem? Why should you even invest any time in trying to build a stronger sense of self-worth? After all, you probably already have enough on your plate, and are squeezed for time.

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More Happiness

I’d say one of the main reasons is that you’ll simply be more happy. And by that I mean not the superficial kind of happiness that gets paraded on TV. It’s not about looking at the world through rose-tinted glasses, straightening up your back and forcing a smile on your face.

It’s about living a life of joy and fulfillment. It’s about experiencing all the blessings life has to offer you with gratitude.

More Money

When you have a low sense of self-esteem, you value yourself too low. And while this happens on an emotional level, it will also reflect on your bank account.

Developing your self-esteem will pay off even financially. Whether you work as an employee, run your own business, are a freelancer or are currently unemployed – a lack of self-esteem will hurt you in all of these areas.

Relationships With Others

The quality of your relationships with other people is probably one of the biggest areas where developing your self-esteem will make a positive difference.

Your self-esteem affects every interaction you have with another person. Whenever two or more people communicate with each other, they are implicitly measuring the other person’s self-esteem.

Feeling Successful

We already mentioned that developing your self-esteem can help you to be more successful professionally. But it will also help you to feel more successful. Because believe it or not, there are plenty of people who seem successful on the outside, but they don’t feel successful inside.

Yes, they have the great job, the nice house, the fancy car and more than enough money to spend, but they still don’t feel successful. Deep down inside, they feel like a failure, and that’s eating away at them.

Even though these people do things that create success on the outside, inside themselves they do things, and say things to themselves, that make them feel bad.

Being Stronger

You’ll also be stronger when faced with challenges and difficulties. Problems will not bring you down, but instead cause you to tap into your resources and come up with solutions.

People with a low sense of self-esteem might be easily discouraged and give up early in the face of adversity – but those with a healthy self-esteem are resourceful enough to come up with ways to achieve their goals despite the obstacles in their way.

More Respect

You will both give and receive more respect. When you have a low self-esteem, you might often view others as a threat to your current status, and this can cause you to belittle other people’s accomplishments and not giving them the credit they deserve. When you develop your self-esteem however, you don’t feel threatened by others, and show other people your respect more generously. This in turn will cause them to treat you more respectfully.

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